This paper examines what constitutes good leadership in social democratic movements. It was written in the context of building the movement for a ‘good society’, and about leadership specifically in relation to the Labour Party. However, the author argues that our good society is not some place out there that we are going to get to via a detailed plan/map drawn up by a small number of people. Rather, our good society exists in all of us. In this context, if we want to reflect on what leadership will grow our good society then we need to focus our attention on how we – firstly as individuals and then collectively – both lead and allow ourselves to be led, regardless of where we might sit in current hierarchies. Three practices for a cultural change to enable good leadership are suggested: distribution (power-sharing, autonomy and mutuality); integrity; and awakening hearts and minds.